BlogHer10 vs Non-BlogHer parties - oh no!

On day 19 of 31 Days to Build a Better Blog, the assignment was to give your opinion. No. I don’t want to. It was always my intent to have my blog as a haven. A place of escape where you don’t hear my views on politics. Where I won’t berate one group over the other or spew junk that would just bring “bad vibes”. No haters allowed I always said.


So I just turned the pages to the next assignment (yes, I actually printed that thing out! A gazillion pages I might add.)

Then this weekend happened. It was BlogHer10 in New York.

Now, BlogHer is a really cool event and I have no problem with it.  I’m not sure I’d go if my husband didn’t go with me (I’m sure he could pay a call on his clients in Jersey while I’m there) and that would be because, (bless my heart) I have absolutely no sense of direction! Really! Just ask anybody that has ever been off with me! Hey! Just go with me to the mall!

There was plenty happening in “twitter land” for those who were not attending. There was #notgoingtoblogher and #blogherpityparty, #HomeHer (I especially thought that was a cool name) #nogoblogher and others that I can’t remember right now. I attended a lot of those parties, and I even donated giveaways to a couple. It was really funny reading the ladies tweets as if we were actually at a blogging event… asking what their hotel rooms looked like, who wanted to meet in the lobby, go for breakfast, the parties we’d be attending…. All in fun and totally innocent. No harm, no foul.

And then I saw it. Some Blogher10 folks were seeing the tweets obviously because I started seeing tweets about how they thought it was sad that “we” were making fun of them (jealous of them) because they were there and we weren’t. (Ok, I must insert this because there were not a lot of those type of tweets, but the few that were I was unfortunate enough to read).

I felt awful that some of the people mistook our “fun” as an affront to them. Honestly, I even tweeted something like “Dear Blogher10 don’t be jealous of us in our nonblogher parties”. Immediately I thought Oh no! Do they mean me? Am I one of those “sad” ones they were talking about?

I want you to understand that generally I’m the type of person, if I see you stopped following my blog, or tweets, I immediately think “now why doesn’t she like me anymore”. Really, it’s sick I know, but I am the first-born-compliant-one! LOL.

I’m getting to the opinion part, honest!
I am going to reference a much overused and abused quote now so get ready… It’s from Rodney King… People! “Can we just all get along”??? I mean, really. Come on. Lighten up. In the (multiple) parties I was privy to I didn’t get the feeling they were spewing hate towards the BlogHer crowd. Not one bit. I just wish we could all not take ourselves so seriously…chill. And remember that you’re only reading words, you can’t actually hear the laughter or smile in the person’s voice. Try to extend some grace…and laugh with them.  Please!  Because I'm definitely a tongue-in-cheek kinda gal, and have stuck her big foot in her mouth more than once (or 100's of times).

Ok, that’s it. My opinion, my soapbox and I’m climbing down now.

Just love each other more, tolerate the other style of humor, be kind…and be Sweet, ok?
Muuuwah! Love you all!